Does Comparison Inspire you?????

Some days before i wrote about the benefits of not comparing yourself to others. Comparison makes you feel jealous, arrogant , insecure but never happy and satisfied. One of my friends commented like,” but what if it inspires you to improve yourself? what if it makes you say, ‘If so-and-so can do it, so can I?”

And his comment made me analyse something important, there’s a big difference between inspiration and comparison. 

There are many people who inspires me but inspiration is not the same thing as comparison.

I can’t say how it works for others but all i can do is share what happens in my case.

When i am inspired by others , i want to appreciate them, i want to clap for them. On the other hand when i get stuck comparing myself with others(especially people of my age group), i am jealous of them , i want to criticise them and i am actually not happy for their accomplishments. I misinterpret their success as a reflection on me.

I think its easy for me to stock my friends instagram profile or check others code chef rank  or paying attention to their marks …etc and jump from learning from their experience and being inspired by their work to comparing myself to them. “I wish i had as many followers as her, i wish i could get 80% just like she got etc. then??? then what? i walk away , feeling discontent, over-criticising my work and not satisfied with where i am. This is so, so ,SO unhealthy.

So comparison never leads to happiness. 

Comparison lead us on an endless journey beyond ourselves, into other people’s worlds or what we assume them to be like.

Let’s look at some of the differences i found on internet and i am pretty sure you all can relate these with your life.

Inspiration tells you anything is possible, comparison tells you everything is impossible.

Inspiration fills you up. Comparison empties you.

Inspiration drives you forward. Comparison pulls you backward.

Inspiration tells you theres still to accomplish something amazing. Comparison tells you its too late.

Inspiration is a gift . Comparison is a curse.

So why Comparison?????

We have to get ourselves out of the comparison trap, as it’s about as healthy as a Coca-Cola and a chip sandwich.

I hope you find people who inspire you. The world is full of them, but when you do, don’t let your inspiration mutate into comparison.

Don’t compare your start to someone else’s half way.

Be yourself! appreciate what you have and work hard for the best.

CELEBRATE WHO YOU ARE !!! 

So finally 2nd semester results are out and my friends over here are like “chalo pass to ho gaye!”

Some of them were celebrating and rest others were just sitting sad! I always wonder how can these numeric values affect someone’s mind so much!!!  

The problem starts when we start comparing ourselves with every other human being on this planet! Why do we do this ??? 

Let us consider an example: 

Suppose i got 87% and my friend got 67%. Now she will definitely feel bad because she got less marks than me! But she felt bad because she compared herself with me! You should keep in mind that  your gifts and talents and successes and contributions and value are entirely unique to you and your purpose in this world. They can never be properly compared to anyone else. 

Comparison brings negative feeling like jealousy, hatred, inferiority  etc. 

Comparison doesn’t actually help you accomplish your goals but It makes you feel insecure! 

As Steve Furtick explains, the reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind-the-scenes with everyone else’s highlight reel! 

In this game of life,if you waste your time comparing yourselves with others you will never reach a point where you are better than others in every way. 

When you compare yourself with others you may become better than them but not the best!  

Instead of trying to be as good as or better than others, focus your energy on being the very best version of yourself.  

Don’t waste your time living someone else’s life!

The goal of life is not to be better than 50% of the other people on the planet . The goal of life is to be the best you that you can possibly be.

Realise life is not a competition and nobody is perfect on this planet.

As humans, it is in our nature to compare ourselves to others. But nothing good ever comes from it. So let’s stop comparing ourselves to others. We were not born to live their life. There is no sense wasting our life (or energy) being jealous of theirs. Instead, let’s start living our lives. Let’s determine today to be good at it. After all, we only get one shot.

#Be_Yourself !!!

You are born an "ORIGINAL". Don't die a "COPY".